By Deborah Gold
“Counting Down is a deeply moving memoir about both the rewards and the daunting challenges of being a foster family. By choosing to incorporate both parent and child perspectives, Deborah Gold has created a unique and valuable book. Bravo.”
Ron Rash, author of The Risen
"(Counting Down is) definitely a must-read for any foster parent.“
Fostering Families Today
“Counting Down provides a deep dive into fostering and adoption…. (P)rovide(s) insight into the human emotions and reasoning within a chaotic system. These insights are useful for prospective foster parents wondering what types of relationships and obstacles to expect; current foster parents will find encouragement, advice, and validation in the stories.”
“After reading this book, I realize that foster parents are the bravest people in the world. Deborah Gold's eloquent and thorough portrayal of this experience is not only enlightening, it is revelatory. And beautifully written, with wonderful additions by her foster son Michael. Counting Down reads like a novel and should be required reading in every child psychology and women's studies class, and in every education, family law, and medical course in the country.”
Lee Smith, author of Dimestore: A Writer’s Life
When Deborah Gold and her husband signed up to foster parent in their rural mountain community, they did not foresee that it would lead to a roller-coaster fifteen years of involvement with a traumatized yet resilient birth family. They fell in love with Michael (a toddler when he came to them), yet they had to reckon with the knowledge that he could leave their lives at any time.
In Counting Down, Gold tells the story of forging a family within a confounding system. We meet social workers, a birth mother with the courage to give her children the childhood she never had herself, and a father parenting from prison. We also encounter members of a remarkable fellowship of Appalachian foster parents—gay, straight, right, left, evangelical, and atheist—united by love, loss, and quality hand-me-downs.
Gold’s memoir is one of the few books to deliver a foster parent’s perspective (and, through Michael’s own poetry and essays, that of a former foster child). In it, she shakes up common assumptions and offers a powerfully frank and hopeful look at an experience often portrayed as bleak.
Deborah Gold is the pseudonym of a teacher, writer, and former foster parent. Licensed as foster parents for fifteen years, she and her husband eventually gained custody of two siblings. More info →
Deborah Gold essay in Fostering Families Today (July/Aug 2019)Download
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